Sorry, Mommy Has to Work: Here's How Families Live Better Abroad on One Income.

From Barely Making It to Actually Living It

Do you know that feeling of guilt when you miss another soccer game because of a late meeting? Or when homework help turns into a rushed 10-minute session between dinner and bedtime? If you're nodding, you're like most American parents – caught in the endless juggle of working to afford life while trying actually to live it.

Here's a truth that changed everything for my family: Outside of America, living on one income isn't just possible – it's common.

When we moved abroad, we discovered something surprising. The same salary that barely covered basics in America suddenly stretched to afford a lifestyle we'd only dreamed about.

Here's why:

Housing: In many countries, rent or mortgage payments are a fraction of what you'd pay in major U.S. cities. In Copenhagen, our three-bedroom apartment cost less than our two-bedroom in America, and it came with amenities we'd considered luxuries before.

Childcare & Education: International schools often cost significantly less than private U.S. schools, and in many countries, quality public education is readily available – and excellent. Plus, with one parent having more flexibility, after-school care becomes optional, not mandatory.

Healthcare: No more choosing between a $500 monthly premium or a $5,000 deductible. Many countries offer affordable healthcare that actually delivers better outcomes than the U.S. system.

Daily Expenses: Basic living costs, from groceries to utilities, are often lower in Doha. For example, we spend about 40% less on our weekly grocery bill than in London or would have in America.

But the real value? It's not just about spending less – it's about gaining more:

Time: Without the pressure of maintaining two incomes, one parent can focus on the children's activities, homework, and development. For us, this meant I could grow my business at my own pace while being fully present for our daughters.

Quality of Life: Family dinner isn't a special occasion anymore – it's our daily normal. We have time for homework, activities, and those precious unplanned moments that create lasting memories.

Mental Space: The constant stress of juggling work and family commitments fades. There's room to breathe, to be present, to enjoy your children while they're still children.

Community: With more time available, you can build meaningful connections in your new community. Playdates aren't rushed, and friendships have space to develop naturally.

Personal Growth: Parents who step back from full-time work often discover new opportunities, whether it's starting a business, pursuing a passion project, or simply rediscovering interests that got lost in the American hustle.

This isn't about one parent "giving up" their career. It's about your family gaining the freedom to choose. Some families we know have one parent working remotely, others have started location-independent businesses, and some have chosen to focus entirely on family life for a season.

The point is that you have options. Options that might feel impossible in America become surprisingly achievable when you look beyond its borders.

Sometimes, the best way to afford the life you want isn't to earn more – it's to live somewhere that lets you keep more of what you already make.